Waiting is REALLY Worth It

I remember that day vividly. On a warm summer evening in July, I was feeling a sudden inspiration all the while being over cumbered with grief from a broken relationship, to start a blog. I excitedly texted my good friend Jinny that I would turn my aching pain into words for a part of my story and she couldn’t have been more thrilled for me. Writing really is a coping mechanism for me to release stubborn emotions. I frantically searched and found multiple sites on how to set up a blog, etc. I picked a site, a name, and what my writing would be based on. I then took it to the next level and clicked on the plus icon to start my first post!

That’s when it hit me.

I knew what I had to write about. I suddenly felt less excited and more anxious and sad. If I were to get my message out there as well as my emotions, I knew I was going to have to face them.

I had to re-experience the pain, anger, fear, and sadness I felt about that broken relationship and to find a way to put them into words and share it with strangers. That was NOT an easy thing to do. I knew I had to turn to God and pray my heart out about it. As time went on, my heart was letting go a lot of intense emotion and I felt an overwhleming peace about my past.

I wrote about my pain and how I coped with it (only through the power of Jesus Christ). I wrote about the seasons I had experienced: my love season with God and the importance of singleness, the pain with dating and to watch out for wolves in sheep clothing, and eventually about my season of severe depression and where I considered suicide last year.

This post today is a loving one. A post that reminds my heart why I started this blog in the first place. I’m sitting here at my black kitchen table with a mason jar full of sweet tea, glancing over at my husband of almost 2 months, just thanking Abba Father above that every tearful, daunting, dark nights I cried from sadness, the days screaming in my car full of anger, and praying and worshiping until my lungs almost collapsed led to this: waiting is REALLY worth it.

I found the love I was looking for in a person, but it goes beyond that. I found someone whom I love getting to drink coffee with every single morning. Whom I love getting to pick groceries and figure out a budget plan with every month. A love that lasts more than a Sunday. 3 years ago I was broken, lost, and then found me. I fell in love with being alone and enjoying me. Now, I fell in love with my husband and never want to be without him.

“Living as A Modern Day Ruth: Day Four”. By: Meldie Rose Jordan. 

Well everyone, we are the last and final chapter of the book of Ruth, and might I say what an incredible story this was! We learned about a woman who had lost her husband, traveled to a foreign land, and had to work long days just to provide for her and her mother in law. Ruth could have turned to many different routes and would have missed out on so many blessings. But, she chose to trust God and followed through on a path unknown. And from that  Act of obedience she eventually found a kind, noble, and loving man of God. Remember how I told you this book has a happy ending? Well let’s dive in! 

Ruth Chapter four starts out with Boaz discussing with the family redeemer of Naomi and ten witness of the his town. When Boaz approached him, he told him about how Naomi was selling the land that belonged to her former husband, Elimelech. Boaz explained to the family redeemer that if he was to choose to inherit this land, he also had to take Ruth’s hand in marriage. The man insisted that Boaz should take his place and inherit the land, since the man thought it would interfere with managing his already ownes land. So, Boaz agreed, and as an Israel custom in “authorizing transactions”, Boaz removed his sandal and proclaimed in front of the previous family redeemer and the ten leaders of the town that he would inherit the land of Elimelech and take Ruth’s hand in marriage. God immediately went to work and after Ruth and Boaz wed, they slept together and they had a son, Obed. Naomi was filled with joy because after losing two of her sons, she had gained a new one (Boaz being a close relative to Naomi, it was all part of God’s plan). 

The town’s women were so pleased to see Naomi filled with life again. “The neighbor women said, “Now at last Naomi has a son again!” And they named him Obed. He became the father of Jesse and the grandfather of David.” Ruth‬ ‭4:17‬ ‭NLT‬‬ 

Now this next part explains the blood line of how Boaz is connected to Jesus Christ: “This is the genealogical record of their ancestor Perez: Perez was the father of Hezron. Hezron was the father of Ram. Ram was the father of Amminadab. Amminadab was the father of Nahshon. Nahshon was the father of Salmon. Salmon was the father of Boaz. Boaz was the father of Obed. Obed was the father of Jesse. Jesse was the father of David.” Ruth‬ ‭4:18-22‬ ‭

It is all connected. Through Ruth’s act of obedience, she continued to carry the bloodline of Christ. We would have never read these miraculous stories of King David if Ruth and Boaz didn’t commit their lives to God’s will. This book demonstrates the act of God’s promises and how He can create something beautiful in a ugly mess. Things won’t always go to plan, but when we choose to trust and believe in His word, the pain we feel will only be temporary. We can seek out His face and know any trial we face, whether it’s waiting in singleness, dealing with heart break, or handling marriage difficulties, there is nothing God won’t handle and we don’t need to be afraid to let go, be still, and to trust His works. 

“Living as A Modern Day Ruth: Day Three.” By: Melodie Rose Jordan. 

If you have been following along in this study, then you probably are anxiously waiting at the edge of your seat, bible at upright position as to what will lie next for Boaz and Ruth. I got some good news for you my dear friend, there are wonderful things in store for these two noble people! 

Ruth Chapter three begins with Naomi advising Ruth to find a permanent home, or in our terms, a new husband. Naomi has noticed how kind Boaz has been to Ruth for letting her work in his field along with other workers. Naomi tells Ruth to take a bath, wear expensive perfume, and nice clothing. Now, don’t overlook at her strange commands. Naomi is not instructing Ruth to commit an impure act, but to show Boaz that he can become her “family redeemer”. (Boaz could find someone to marry Ruth, or he could marry her himself). It may seem like apathetic business, but it leads to so much more. Later that evening, Ruth approaches Boaz’s bed, and uncovers his feet. (This showed respect to a master, Ruth being one of his workers in the field he owned, also an Israel custom). Around midnight, Boaz awoke in a fright to see a woman at his feet! “Who are you?” He demanded. “I am your servant Ruth,” she replied. “Spread the corner of your covering over me, for you are my family redeemer.” The Lord bless you, my daughter!” Boaz exclaimed. “You are showing more family loyalty now than ever by not running after a younger man, whether rich or poor. Ruth 3:8-10

Wow! What a reaction! I am blown away how they both honor each other and show such kindness. Later in this chapter, Boaz tells Ruth that he will spread word around the town of Judah of what an honorable woman Ruth was. He also stated that if he could not find anyone who would be willingly to marry her, he would marry her himself. (Awe!) Ruth laid at his feet until dawn, and before she returned back to Naomi, he gave her six scoops of barley, for he didn’t want Ruth to return empty handed. Ruth then awaited patiently with her mother-in-law for Boaz’s desicion. 

What a beautiful chapter, right?! So, how can we apply this to our own lives. 

Before seeking out a man, seek spiritual council: We all have someone(s) in our lives that we tell everything to. Someone we can be completely open and vulnerable. It’s so important to discuss with a trustworthy, God led individual about a dating situation. They will help you in prayer, in guidance, or just emotional support (I have to recommend my dear friend Jinny! Thanks for being my “butterfly friend” 🦋❤)

If you have found someone, are they honoring you: did you notice how Boaz reacted when he saw Ruth laying at his feet? He didn’t get angry with her. He didn’t make a scene with other men and outcast her, since she was a foreigner. He addressed her in such a Godly way. He even went far as to tell his whole towns people just how much of an honorable woman she was. Make sure you have a signifanct other in your life who only brings your reputation up and makes sure you are spoken positively. 

If you’re still single and waiting, God has forgotten you: I am sure Ruth was so anxious and anticipating the decision that Boaz had to make. I’m sure she was having dozen of thoughts. Naomi gave her such encouraging advice, as it helped me: “Just be patient, my daughter, until we hear what happens. The man won’t rest until he has followed through on this.” Ruth: 3:18

God has someone out there for us. All we can do is be obedient to His word, surround ourselves with Godly influences, and trust in Him. ❤

“Living as A Modern Day Ruth: Day Two.” By: Melodie Rose Jordan. 

One main personal question I had to face when I left my last relationship was, “what now?” I had left one life I was comfortable with to one that felt like it was on an unlit path. I remember the feelings I first felt when I became single: scared, unsure, and doubtful. I was personally so far from God. I kind of began to resent Him for letting me go through so much grief. That was when I realized; the life I had was pushing me away, while God was pulling me in. Today we see Ruth experience the same thing. She entered her new life, and she knew she had some decisions to make for her future as well as Naomi’s. 

Ruth Chapter Two starts out with a wealthy Bethlehem man, Boaz. He owned a land that was plentiful with crops, and he had workers who would cut down the crops of barley and wheat in the fields and tie them into bundles. After a long days work, any crops that were not harvested could be picked up by poor people, which is called gleaning. It was served as for poor to have food to eat and the owners could not hoard any more than they should. Ruth and Naomi only carried themselves into this new land, so they really needed to harvest for themselves. Ruth approached Naomi and said, “Let me go into the fields to gather leftover grain behind anyone who will let me do it.” (Ruth 2:2) Naomi agreed and as Ruth went out into the land to glean, she happened to be working in the land that Boaz owned.

Let’s pause to reflect. Don’t you see God’s hand in this? This brave, kind woman decided to stay by her mother in law’s side to support and comfort her, and now she is working as well. God planned this to meet a true man of God, Boaz. When we trust God and His will for our lives, we can see past the suffering. 

Continuing, Boaz saw Ruth and approached her saying, “The Lord be with you!” Okay…if a man I never met greeted me like that I would fall over. Wow! Boaz was told by a foreman that Ruth was a woman of the Lord. For he knew that she just lost her husband and his relative Elimelech had passed as well, and Ruth chose to be merciful and loving to Naomi. Boaz was astounded by her character! So he told her to work with the other woman and harvest as much as she wanted and to drink plenty from his well. (Ruth 2:4-8)

Ruth was so blown away by his character and fell to his feet exclaiming, “Why are you so kind to me?! I am only a foreigner.” Boaz replied, “Yes I know, but I also know about the love and kindness you have shown your mother-in-law since he death of your husband. I heard how you left your mother and father in your own land to live hear among strangers. May the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge, reward you fully. (Ruth 2:10-12) 

So from that point on Boaz had Ruth work in his land so she was safe and had plenty to take back to Naomi. Boaz noticed Ruth’s character by how she worked to provide for her and Naomi, and how she entered a new life, trusting in God to lead her the way. Ruth noticed Boaz’s character by embracing her for the woman she was, not as a foreigner. He made sure that she had plenty to harvest and a place to rest. They both acknowledge God. That right there is so important to have in a stable, lasting relationship. 

Today, honor your husband, friend, or co-worker. Show them a inwardly kindness that is unlike this world. Demonstrate a godly character and help a hurt soul feel important. If you feel stuck or the path you’re on is just leading down a black hole, ask God to give you guidance and motivation to work for Him.