I am aware I have shared my story of how I overcame the pain of last storm I endured. I just find it very important to express the lesson I’m wanting to share: you can still choose to smile in the midst of agony. I’m sure there are some eyes reading this feeling heavy, tired, and wanting them closed forever. Before you click the exit button of this blog, friend, just leave with these words: your past doesn’t define you. Your pain isn’t your thoughts. Your sadness isn’t your feelings. Your anger isn’t your heart.
If you just endured a heavy burden, I understand that these words may have just went over your head completely. Go through the process of anger, denial, and sadness. It is okay to feel like getting out of bed is the hardest thing. It’s okay that looking at your blank phone screen makes you feel hollow. It is okay to miss that person who you never thought would walk away. But, it is not okay to stay in that dark place. Clouds cover the sun at times, but it still does its work to keep shining its light. So should we. I went through a trial of isolation. This isolation was beyond difficult.
There were moments I felt like I had everything, and more moments I felt like nothing. There were times where being at the grocery store was too much work for one day. I always felt like I needed to be with someone. I usually tried my best to stay as far away from my room because being alone frightened me. Instead of running away from loneliness, I delved into it. I became friends with myself. I started to take walks in nature, write poetry and blogs, and be more organized. I started to see myself the way I should have: beautiful, kind, and enough. The more time I spent alone, the more God made home my heart.
Up until now I have been so content with me. I always have found my security and self worth in men. Now I find it through me. I learned how to love others the way I want to be loved. I learned more about my flaws and how to cope with them. I learned to be happy with what I have, instead of dwelling what I lost. And you, my beautiful friend, can have that same luxury. You can see past your pain, and smile.